Hey, Strangers! Although I suppose I’m the one whose been a stranger to my own blog. Does anyone else find themselves in a “February funk” year after year? I am so guilty of this. By this time every year, I find myself not wanting to do anything productive at all. Whether it’s caused by the cold weather here in New Jersey, frustration towards those couple of Holiday pounds that found a happy home on my ass, or the loneliness/quietness that I’m not used to after the craziness of November – January. All these triggers are things that then, in turn, make me feel sorry for myself. Scrolling through social media and falling into a deep hole of comparison and self-pity. Why the hell do we do this to ourselves?
Well, on this random Wednesday morning I decided after a sleepless night (caused by anxiety of all the things listed above + the list goes on), that I am so done feeling that way. I am always a huge advocate for “creating your own happiness” and “there’s never a rainbow without any rain” and I somehow continue to press these things on everyone around me while blatantly forgetting about myself. And that’s just illogical.
Today I have decided that I’m going to stop feeling sorry for myself and to again, find that fire that pushes me to succeed. Your only limit is your mind. I’m going to freaking stop scrolling Instagram and comparing my life to platforms that are staged to be perfect. Comparison is the thief of joy. I’m going to remind myself of all my blessings and thank god for them over and over again. And guess what? I want you all to do the same damn thing. We are all going through something at some point. Next time you’re going through that “something,” remember that you are not alone and that you are the only person who can pull yourself out of it. Start doing the things that bring you joy and I promise joy will find it’s way back to you.
Self Love Routine:
*a few things that help build myself back up
- “Me” Time: Rent a movie, your favorite one. Or run yourself a bath. Put on a face mask. Pour yourself that large glass of wine and light some candles. Prepare yourself a chocolate chip skillet cookie and only take out one damn fork. I find that if i’m even able to find just one hour (one stinking hour!!!) a week where I can just focus on myself or shut off my brain, it is a glorious thing that does glorious things for my soul.
- Surround Yourself: I know, this seems contradictory to what I just said. As important as alone time is, you don’t want to find yourself in such a deep hole that you are literally closing off from the people you love/love you most. The other day, my husband and I both had off work at the same time, on the same day AND didn’t have a list of 100 things to accomplish (this literally never happens.) We packed up Emma and went out to lunch, went for a walk, did a little shopping. We came home and tidied up the house together and cooked dinner together. I even got him to watch The Bachelor with me (ugh, what a guy.) It was the perfect day and it was exactly what I needed.
- Dinner Parties: We all know I love these. Make it easy and fun. Try something new or give it a theme: fondue (post coming soon), make your own pizza, game night, GALentine’s Day party (post coming soon), potluck, the list goes on.
- Set a goal and crush it: It can be something so small, but make it a goal that is for yourself and will benefit you. Once you crush it, you’ll feel like you can conquer the world. Then set another one.
- De-clutter: Living in an unorganized mess can be crippling. Get rid of the things that provide nothing but clutter. Clean the pantry that makes you want to throw a temper tantrum every time you have to figure out how to fit just one more thing in there. Donate the clothes you haven’t even looked at in over a year. Reward yourself by going out and purchasing something new. Enjoy the fresh start.
- Exercise: This has proven to be so hard for me as a working mom. It’s so easy for people to say “make the time,” when they don’t understand there is already barely enough time for you to sleep. So, I decided to take baby steps. I began by doing quick 30 minute circuits at home. Usually while Emma was still sleeping in the morning or in the evening when she was self-entertaining for a few minutes. Even these quick workouts that you fit into your schedule a few times a week, help tremendously. “Exercise gives you endorphins. Endorphins make you happy. Happy people don’t shoot their husbands, they just don’t.”
- Remind Yourself: Of all the good. There is so much good in the world and there are so many things to be thankful for. Write them down if you have to, but recognize them somehow. “Joy is a decision, a really brave one, about how you are going to respond to life.”
I look forward to continue finding & sharing my joy with all of you.